God is still in control

God is still in control

In the past few days it seems like there has been nothing but bad news.  My son’s childhood friend has been diagnosed with a malignant brain tumor, twenty-six people, including twenty CHILDREN, were gunned down at Sandy Hook Elementary in Newtown, Connecticut, and my family is dealing with two separate and difficult struggles which are [...]

Tis the Season

Tis the Season

Tis the Season …. for love. …. for giving. …. for hope. …. for dreams. …. for faith. …. for joy. …. for Christ.   Don’t miss it!

There is no such thing as a silent Christian

There is no such thing as a silent Christian

Have you ever run into someone who seems downright uncomfortable when you mention Christ in your daily conversation?  I notice that from time to time when I talk with people.  Mentioning something that Christ has done for me while in the middle of a conversation is like breathing for me.  It just happens. Recently a [...]

The Other Side of the Fence ~ Lessons I’m Still Learning from my Parents

The Other Side of the Fence ~ Lessons I’m Still Learning from my Parents

Let’s face it. We have all come to the conclusion at some point in our lives that our parents simply don’t know nearly as much as we know.  In fact, as teenagers, we often think our parents are some of the least intelligent people on the planet.  We consider them to be out of touch, [...]

You are Loved

You are Loved

Jesus loves you right where you are in life, but He loves you too much to leave you there.

When Life Throws You Bricks

When Life Throws You Bricks

Ever had one of those days when your best intentions were totally misunderstood and something small turned into a larger than life nightmare? When you find yourself in a bad place and you feel like everyone is throwing bricks in your face, remember that there is something to be learned in every situation.  Each struggle [...]

Choose Gratitude

Choose Gratitude

It is impossible to be critical and grateful at the same time.  Think about it. For every person out there who drives you crazy and walks through life at a beat that is different from yours, you can choose to criticize them day in and day out, or you can choose to be grateful for [...]

You can’t receive grace with a clenched fist

You can’t receive grace with a clenched fist

You can’t receive grace with a clenched fist. Your hands must first be open. Just think about it for a second.  You can’t expect someone to forgive you if you are full of anger.  Would you feel like forgiving someone who was screaming at you with some sort of sarcastic or hostile apology that was [...]

I can’t do it, but Christ can do it through me

I can’t do it, but Christ can do it through me

Are you facing something so overwhelming that it seems impossible to overcome? It’s likely that it will, in fact, be impossible if you rely only on yourself. After surviving several huge challenges which resulted in what I like to call “parting of the Red Sea moments” in my life, I’m here to tell you that [...]

Don’t fit in. Stand out!

Don’t fit in. Stand out!

I’m not sure who gets the credit for this expression, but it’s simple and it’s smart.  What have any of us ever accomplished by fitting in?  I spent a good part of my life trying to fit in. It was exhausting and disappointing.  I could never keep up with the Jones’s and if I came [...]

Just do it!

Just do it!

Forgive the people who have hurt your the most and deserve it the least. Just do it! I promise it will radically change your life. I heard these words of wisdom while at church one Sunday morning. I’m not sure where they originated, but I would imagine they came from the lips of one who is [...]

Get to know the new guy

Get to know the new guy

August 11, 2011 ~ I’m a casualty of war, but I’ve been far too focused on that fact for the past two and half years.  I’ve allowed Traumatic Brain Injury and Post Traumatic Stress to steal my oldest son, and steal my joy. For the longest time we have been trudging through the stages of [...]

Save a life by sharing your story

Save a life by sharing your story

July 15, 2011 ~ When it comes to the world of Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) and Traumatic Brain Injury (TBI), the invisible wounds of war, most of us have a tendency not to share our stories.  There is an automatic respect given to those who come home from war with physical wounds, but for those who [...]

Are you ready for the big boom? PTSD and Fireworks

Are you ready for the big boom? PTSD and Fireworks

July 1, 2011 ~ With July 4th coming up and the passage of a new Kentucky fireworks law, we are going to be hearing a lot more noise this year.  Rather than drive to Tennessee or Indiana, we can now legally buy bottle rockets, Roman candles and other explosives that shoot up in the air.  [...]

Diffusing the IED ~ When the caregiver lives with PTSD

Diffusing the IED ~ When the caregiver lives with PTSD

May 16, 2011 ~ I’ve heard it described.  The moment the soldier looks down and sees the trip wire that is going to set off the IED (Improvised Explosive Device) he freezes.  His blood runs cold.  His gut has an instant reaction. He breaks out in a cold sweat. Thoughts run through his mind faster [...]

Beauty Will Rise

Beauty Will Rise

May 16, 2011 ~ As the mother of one struggling with PTSD and TBI, the past couple of years has been one of my most difficult to survive.  Though my wounded warrior still draws breath, he is no longer the person who left home seven years ago to join the Marine Corps. As I adjust to [...]

Music and Faith from Ft. Living Room

Music and Faith from Ft. Living Room

May 15, 2011 ~ Music is a language that we all understand.  There are certain songs that make us clap our hands and stomp our feet.  Some songs bring us to tears.  Songs bring back memories from the past.  Music is used in advertisements, and very effectively I might add.  The music in a film [...]

Blessing in the Pain

Blessing in the Pain

May 15, 2011 ~ After searching and researching and asking questions of everyone and every entity I could find, in an effort to figure out how to live through the daily struggles I faced watching my son, a disabled combat veteran, learn to live with a Traumatic Brain Injury (TBI) and Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD), [...]

Commanding the War from my Comfy Couch

Commanding the War from my Comfy Couch

April 2011 ~ What does it feel like when your child deploys to a war zone?  For most of us who have had to let our child grow up in such a way, we really can’t describe how it feels…..at least not in a nutshell.  If I had to choose just one phrase I guess [...]

The one answer to PTSD

The one answer to PTSD

June 4, 2010 – If you have checked out our website at www.fellednot.com you may have landed on the “Survival” page by now. A couple of days ago, I changed the name of the page to what I consider to be a more appropriate title -“Survival and Hope”. We are all surviving something, but it’s those of [...]

The Broken Heart of a Wounded Warrior’s Mother

The Broken Heart of a Wounded Warrior’s Mother

On July 16, 2009, my life came crashing down around me.  Three days later on July 19, 2009, I wrote the following, my own version of Jonah, Chapter 2, and sent it to a pastor at my church.  For many months, I have kept this issue very private, fearing the judgment of stigma, however, I now know [...]

Welcome!

Welcome!

Welcome to my newest blog site.  I’m really excited to be able to share a piece of my mind with anyone who might be interested in what I have to say. I’ll likely be blogging about the issues faced by our military and veteran families quite a bit, but I wanted a place to share [...]